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Negative Positive Reinforcement

Negative Positive Reinforcement

On a basic level the principle behind positive reinforcement is to reward good behaviour or learning.

By positively reinforcing an action the idea is that you are teaching a child how to behave.

So let’s take an everyday example in a school yard-

One child falls and hurts their knee. Another child runs over to them, helps them up and maybe alerts an adult in the vicinity.

So the idea with positive behavior support here would be to reward the child who helped.

By positively reinforcing the act you are teaching the child that it was a good thing to do and then motivating them to repeat this kind of behavior

This reinforcement usually manifests as verbal praise, a sticker, some token from whatever behaviorist classroom management strategy is being employed.

Sounds ok in theory I guess

But let’s look at this a little more closely –

The child did this kind act without any external motivation to begin with. What does this tell us? That little humans will help other little humans naturally- without someone else motivating them to do it. The motivation to do so comes from within so why would we presume we need to provide external reward for something that is motivated intrinsically?

Why would anyone presume that a kid who helps someone just because they need help would not do it again unless we intervened in some way? It doesn’t make any sense really does it?

Should a helpful act go unrecognized? That’s not really what I’m saying and there is plenty of science to show that showing and receiving  appreciation has really positive effects on our wellbeing.

So why, in this situation would anyone chose reinforcement instead of gratitude?

It really makes no sense, unless of course your ultimate goal is to control the behavior of small children by coercive methods.

Why do we even need to reinforce kindness when it’s something that comes quite naturally to human beings? We don’t.

Also what do kids learn when their behavior is positively reinforced ? Well, they are often taught that there’s no point doing something for some else unless there’s a reward in it for them. By using external rewards we can actually de-motivate kids to do what just comes very naturally to human beings.

This sort of reinforcement is then also used as a way to motivate other kids- so if Johnny gets rewarded for his behavior then all the other kids will want to get a reward too- that’s the theory anyway. But the removal of a reward is a punishment and so by rewarding one child the adult is effectively punishing the other children.

It’s kinda insulting to kids that they couldn’t see a kind behavior, note the positive effect that had on both people involved and just learn from that.

And what about the kid who tries really really hard but their efforts of kindness gets dismissed, misinterpreted or ignored maybe coz they look a little different? How do they feel?

The justification for behavioral approaches to children is often that their removal would mean chaos and everyone just doing what they please.

But helping others is very much part of our human make up and maybe – if children were just given space and respect instead of being rewarded within an inch of their lives they’d have a lot more time to explore how to coexist.

If a child does something because of intrinsic motivation in the first place then this kinda blows the whole principles behind behavioral approaches out of the water.

They are unnecessary and harmful – much like their predecessor,  corporal punishment was also unnecessary and harmful

But you can’t sell gratitude and normal human kindness- whereas classroom management, reward charts are big business

What about the kid who doesn’t show kindness? Perhaps they are but you’re not seeing it or perhaps they’re waiting for someone to show kindness and gratitude to them ❤️


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